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Links and
Articles
Page Contents:
TCF Web sites: National web
site, Websites in various states, and International web sites.
Grief Support Web Sites: Various
support websites including SIDS, MISS, SPAN, Operation Angel and others
Bereaved Parents Wish List: Compiled by Diane Collins
TCF, Bay Area Chapter, Houston
National Children Memorial: A
proclamation by the President of the United States 1998
National Magazine: Information
on how to subscribe to the National Magazine.
Web Sites of Compassionate Friends
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National:
Headquarters for
The Compassionate Friends:
Alabama:
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Arizona:
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Phoenix
Chapter
Tucson
Chapter
California: Top
Contra
Costa County
Verdugo
Hills Chapter
Delaware: Top
Brandywine
Chapter
Florida: Top
Georgia: Top
Atlanta Area Chapter
Idaho: Top
Illinois: Top
Illinois Chapter
Indiana: Top
Lafayette, IN Chapter
Iowa: Top
Sioux City Chapter
Kansas: Top
Kentucky: Top
Lexington KY Chapter
Western
KY Chapter
Louisiana: Top
Maryland: Top
Baltimore MD Chapter
Massachusetts:
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Massachusetts-Connecticut
Border Towns Chapter
Michigan:
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Livonia
Chapter
Minnesota: Top
Mississippi:
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Jackson Mississippi Chapter
Missouri: Top
Independence
Chapter
Nebraska: Top
New Hampshire: Top
New Jersey: Top
Camden County
Chapter
Mercer County Chapter
Ocean County Chapter
New York: Top
Medford,
Long Island
Rockville Centre Chapter
North Carolina: Top
Iredell County Chapter
Ohio:
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Canfield
- Western Reserve Chapter
Central
Ohio Chapter
Oregon: Top
Salem Oregon
Chapter
Pennsylvania: Top
Lehigh Valley
Chapter
South Carolina: Top
Myrtle
Beach Chapter
South Dakota: Top
Tennessee: Top
Texas: Top
Ft Worth Chapter
Utah:
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Virginia:
Top
Piedmont
Chapter
Washington: Top
Eastside
Washington Chapter
Seattle
Chapter
Wyoming: Top
Other
Grief Support Sites: TOP
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Luvnmiss-memories |
This site is
dedicated to loved ones that have passed on. |
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Recover from Grief |
A site dedicated
to assisting parents with grief after the loss of a child (children). |
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Silent Grief |
This site is
dedicated to families who have suffered loss through stillbirth, miscarriage
& infant death. |
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Death of a Child |
A site dedicated
to assisting parents with grief after the loss of a child (children). |
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The Unthinkable
Grief |
A site dedicated
to assisting parents and their marriage while suffering grief after the loss of a child (children). |
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Alive Alone |
A support group
for the education of bereaved parents, whose only child or all children are
deceased. |
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The Healing Place |
A site dedicated
to parents' healing after the loss of a child or children. |
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A Place to Remember |
Uplifting support
resources for those who have been touched by a crisis in pregnancy or the
death of a baby. |
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AMEND |
AMEND stands for
aiding Mothers and Fathers Experiencing Neonatal Death. Offering free
counseling service to parents who have experienced the loss of an infant
through miscarriage, stillbirth, or neonatal death. Offers support and
encouragement to parents having a normal grief reaction to the loss of their
baby. |
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Open to Hope |
Information and support to support
your marriage after the death of your child(ren). |
A Bereaved Parent's Wish
List TOP
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I wish my child hadn't died. I wish I had him back.
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I wish you wouldn't be afraid to speak my child's name. My
child lived and was very important to me. I need to
hear he was important to you also.
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If I cry and get emotional when you talk about my child I wish you knew that it isn't because you have hurt me. My
child's death is the cause of my tears. You have talked about my
child, and you have allowed me to share my grief. I thank you for
both.
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I wish you wouldn't "kill" my child again by removing his
pictures, artwork, or" other remembrances from your home.
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Being a bereaved parent is not contagious, so I wish you wouldn't shy away from me. I need you now more than ever.
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I need diversions, so I do want to hear about you; but I also want you to hear about me. I might be sad and I might cry,
but I wish you would let me talk about my child, my favorite topic of the
day.
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I know that you think of and pray for me often. I also know
that my child's death pains you, too. I wish you would let me
know those things through a phone call, a card or note, or a real big
hug.
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I wish you wouldn't expect my grief to be over in six months. These first months are traumatic for me, but I wish you
could understand that my grief will never be over. I will
suffer the death of my child until the day I die.
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I am working very hard in my recovery, but I wish you could understand that I will never fully recover. I will
always miss my child, and I will always grieve that he is dead.
I wish you wouldn't expect me "not think about it" or to "be
happy." Neither will happen for a very long time, so don't frustrate
yourself.
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I don't want to have a "pity party," but I do wish you would let me grieve. I must hurt before I can heal.
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I wish you understood how my life has shattered. I know it is miserable for you to be around me when I'm feeling
miserable. Please be as patient with me as I am with you.
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When I say, "I'm doing okay," I wish you could understand that I don't "feel" okay and that I struggle daily.
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I wish you knew that all of the grief reactions I'm having are very normal. Depression, anger, hopelessness and overwhelming
sadness are all to be expected. So please excuse me when I'm
quiet and withdrawn or irritable and cranky.
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Your advice to "take one day at a time" is excellent advice. However, a day is too much and too fast for me right now.
I wish you could understand that I'm doing good to handle an hour
at a time.
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Please excuse me if I seem rude, certainly not my intent. Sometimes the world around me goes too fast and I need to
get off. When I walk away, I wish you would let me find a quiet
place to spend time alone.
Compiled by Diane Collins
TCF, Bay Area Chapter, Houston
National
Children's Memorial Day TOP
December 11, 1998
NATIONAL CHILDREN'S MEMORIAL DAY, 1998
THE WHITE HOUSE
Office of the Press Secretary
For Immediate Release
December 11, 1998
NATIONAL CHILDREN'S MEMORIAL DAY, 1998
BY THE PRESIDENT OF THE UNITED STATES OF AMERICA
A PROCLAMATION
There is nothing more devastating to a family than the death of a child. Each year,
thousands of America's families face this tragedy, losing their children to illness,
injury or accident. Our whole society experiences this loss as well, for we are all
diminished by the death of every one of our young people, whose love, laughter, talents,
and achievements bring so much joy to our lives and so much promise to our future.
The holiday season is an especially painful time for parents who have lost a child, so it
is fitting that we set aside a special day during this month to acknowledge the grief of
these families and to pay tribute to the lives and memories of their children. On National
Children's Memorial Day, let us all reach out, whether as individuals or as members of
caring communities, to offer bereaved families the compassion, support, and understanding
they need to begin the process of healing. NOW, THEREFORE, I, WILLIAM J. CLINTON, President of the United States of America, by
virtue of the authority vested in me by the Constitution and laws of the United States, do
hereby proclaim December 13, 1998, as National Children's Memorial Day. I call upon the
American people to observe this day with appropriate programs and activities in
remembrance of the infants, children, teenagers, and young adults who have died and to
bring comfort to their families. IN WITNESS WHEREOF, I have hereunto set my hand this eleventh day of December, in the year
of our Lord nineteen hundred and ninety-eight, and of the Independence of the United
States of America the two hundred and twenty-third.
WILLIAM J. CLINTON
30-30-30
Magazine of The Compassionate Friends
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Published Quarterly
$20 per year
To subscribe, write or fax the national office:
The Compassionate Friends, Inc.
P.O. Box 3696
Oak Brook IL 60522-3696
Phone: 630.990.0010
Fax: 630.990.0246
Background Music, "Heaven" by Bryan Adams
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